Sexual Lubrication

Both men and women will agree upon is that good sex is wet!

As a woman becomes sexually aroused, the tissue lining the first inch of her vagina begins to swell. As this area swells inside a pre-menopausal woman's vagina, it begins squeezing that exquisite slippery fluid out through the hundreds of small ducts buried within that lining. These vaginal juices first appear right inside the vagina, and it is only as the woman's arousal builds that the sexual secretions will run out the opening. There might not be any lubrication around the woman's sensitive clitoris unless she or her partner capture some and bring it up to caress this pleasure center. Even an aroused woman might have a dry clitoris, and rubbing a dry clitoris will often produce discomfort before it creates arousal.

Under perfect conditions, a highly aroused young woman will lubricate profusely. In reality, however, certain medications, pregnancy and lactation, menopause or monthly hormonal fluctuations will inhibit the production of nature's wonderfully slippery juices. Also, some women are just slow starters, either because of their biology or the ineptness of their lover. Other women might feel highly aroused but for some unknown reason remain bone dry.

A lover should never poke his penis, a finger, a dildo or a cylindrical vibrator into a dry vagina! Just remember the formula: Men get hard, Women get wet! A dry vagina is an indication that arousal is incomplete. This is the time someone should grab the lubricant and apply a small amount around the woman's clitoris. Gentle make an erotic massage with a slippery finger might arouse the woman and no additional lubricant, other then the woman's own, would then be needed. This works very well with slow starters and provides a wonderful learning opportunity for a man who has somehow missed learning of the importance of a woman's clitoris. Remember, the clitoris is typically the source of a woman's pleasure, not her vagina.

A woman who feels aroused, but for some reason does not sufficiently lubricate, will appreciate the application of a healthy amount of artificial lubricant not only around her clitoris, but around the opening of her vagina as well. The lubricant should be gently, but playfully, worked into the vaginal opening with a finger before a toy or penis is inserted. In fact, additional lubrication should also be applied to the object, animate or inanimate, that is about to take the plunge. A good rule of thumb is that it is better to use too much lubrication than not enough.

Have fun and stay wet!